Monday, June 21, 2010

TGC: Is too much of a good thing really that bad?

Over the last few months, I've pondered over this question and wondered why people ignore good things and put themselves in bad predicaments. Is too much of a good thing really that bad? We are taught since birth to strive for success in order to better ourselves, to achieve personal goals, and to do what is best for us. But how often do we keep up those habits? Some of us do. As an adolescent young adult, I used to refer to these people as over achievers. I felt as though they went above and beyond the call of duty for things that just didn't require that much time and effort, but now I'm slowly beginning to understand why they did so and I too am starting to try to incorporate those "over achieving" qualities in all that I do, even relationships.

Relationships have truly taken on a different identity from what our parents used to experience and it's so new that our grandparents literally have no idea what to call it. It's not the same anymore. Men and women are not the gentlemen and belles they once were. There are far more men not aware and ignorant of what it means to be men, husbands, or fathers. There are boys raising boys and cowards raising cowards, if they're doing any raising at all. A lot of people these days don't have real good relationships with their fathers. How could they with Single Family households increasing and divorce rates with skyrocketing numbers? There is no communication anymore, no working it out, no discipline. People get caught up in having fun that they forget and don't see or appreciate the good they have going on for them.

Sex is huge part in relationships nowadays and understandably so. Sex is pretty awesome, but when has it ever been the deciding factor to whether to stay with a person or leave them? Sex is a very powerful influence but always complicates people situation. Some poets and artists refer to sex as a drug. Easily so, because people become addicted to it. It stimulates the body and causes hormones to go crazy but at the end of the day it still clouds judgement especially when making decisions. It's no different from drugs and alcohol, especially when used irresponsibly. We get so caught up in this drug, that more and more children are born before people even can come up with a stable plan. People experience more and more heart ache because the have given something so precious to them away without even knowing all that it's worth. Sexually Transmitted Diseases spread faster and more efficiently because people cut off vital lines of communication before making big time decisions.

So I ask you now, is too much a good thing really that bad as far as relationships go? Despite all of the previous harsh realities mentioned earlier, there are still a ton of great men and women out there, people who have "over achieved" and avoided becoming any type of negative statistic. But I still hear about people who just can't seem to find them, or when they find them, they leave them to go back to the pretty rancid situation they were in before because they were comfortable there. Why is that? I asked. Some people said that it's just easier when you know what to expect out of a person. Some said they don't want to take the chance of getting hurt again. Some said it's not as fun to get everything out of a person. But then I wonder, how can we as a generation of people improve from our current state with a ton of people afraid from what their past has brought them?

1 comment:

  1. You know, they say too much of anything is bad for you; but I disagree.

    It's not a matter of courage either. Personally, with relationships I think it comes down to two things:

    1. Being "ready" and willing to settle down
    2. Understanding the quality/value of the person that's standing right in front of you.

    Here's the catch, and hence the reason that even when those things line up, things might not work out.

    They're both subject to variable change over time.

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